Meet your Dating Muse

About Esmée St James - The Dating Muse™


AFTER 25 YEARS AS A FASHION MODEL AND PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER, I’ve learned a lot about what makes a woman attractive to men and vice versa.

In particular, I’ve learned that smart, successful singles often struggle the most when it comes to finding that most critical missing piece of their happiness puzzle – a successful love life.

Sometimes it’s because they’re busy building a career, and sometimes it’s because they’re divorced and discouraged, or widowed and think it’s too late.

Even more often, it’s because smart and successful singles are often also shy, “nice” person who have difficulty believing they can be the sexy, confident person that will easily attract their soulmate.

But regardless of your exact situation, I know one thing:

You’re ready to find the love of your dreams, or you wouldn’t be here reading this now.

Well, I have good news for you: You can attract the love you deserve.

I’ve spent my entire adult life helping singles like you understand what’s special about their personalities, as well as find the hidden obstacles standing in their way of their next great date.

I take the guesswork out of the dating process for you, helping you find love MUCH faster.

I do it because my calling in life is to end the loneliness we all feel at the end of the day when we think that love (or an active and fulfilling dating life) won’t happen for us.

I’ve been there, I know. And I also know that getting support in overcoming that feeling is the single most important thing we can do for ourselves.

Here's why I’m not like ANY other dating and style strategist you’ve heard about:

  • I don’t teach men or women how to “play games” or become players. Believe me, a lot of the advice you’ll find out there is focused on exactly those things. Instead I teach you to use your assets, to speak from your heart, to be vulnerable – but without letting women step all over you.
  • I don’t “make you over,” I bring your irresistible authentic self to the forefront. With me, you’ll never end up looking like someone else’s version of the perfect date. If we also decide to work on your style, it’ll be your individual style, not borrowed from someone else.
  • I teach singles how to gain lasting confidence: It’s easy to have confidence while you’re working with a coach – what’s harder is keeping that confidence after the coaching ends.
  • Because I teach you the secrets to building instant trust with others, you’ll feel more confident in every interaction, long after our work together is done.
  • I don’t have a “one-size-fits-all system”, I have a rare skill: I’m expert at immediately seeing a person's gifts and knowing how to amplify them. More importantly, I teach you how to showcase them in a way that will make you magnetic to others.


“I cannot speak highly enough of Esmée’s skills. Totally uplifting and game changing.
She got me immediate results socially and in business.”
– Grant A. Photographer

“Thanks to Esmée I’m experiencing a significant increase in response
from women. I highly recommend working with her!”  – Ron S. CEO

“Since working with Esmée, not only do I now have plenty of dates with quality women,
but I’ve also increased my confidence level overall.”
– Travis L. Sr. Sales Engineer


As I said before, my clients are smart, successful singles who want more out of their love lives.

They see me as their greatest ally for achieving the love and the dating life they want.

And that’s what I want for you too.

Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Singles

The Dating Muse is located in the San Francisco Bay area

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